Yesterday I was talking about masturbation with a friend (I’m open about this sort of thing), and her friend was there and she looked at me like I was diseased. So now I have to just explain my opinions on masturbation. I know I’ve mentioned it before, but this girl really pissed me off. Who does she think she is, a fuckin’ saint? She probably does the same things…. I really hate when people act like they don’t think or do things.
I first remember masturbating when I was 6 I think, I was staying at my Uncles for the summer. My sister and I were in the living room and I was lying on the floor with a pillow and I was pushing my pubic bone into the pillow and was humping and grinding. My sister asked me what I was doing and well…..I really didn’t know. My sister was 8 at the time and she told me not to do it in front of people. She didn’t say it was wrong or anything my guess is she did it too.
It’s kind of odd that my family accepts masturbation as normal, especially my mom, she is extremely religious (she goes to church everyday). My guess is it’s because she was a single mother and was only human, I mean she never dated- she had to have masturbated at least a few times. I’m not being perverted; my point is its okay.
My sister was 13 when she started reading those sappy sex novels, my mom’s response was, ‘well, at least she’s reading’…
I remember when I used to go to church all the time and I did the wait until I’m married pledge. They said masturbation was bad and that guys and girls shouldn’t do anything beyond a simple kiss. That a guy touching your knee is bad and could lead to sin. Well, don’t get me wrong I still respect the people that do keep the pledge (even though I didn’t). It’s just not realistic for me. How can you abstain from sex without masturbating?
I lost my virginity (I was 17), and it wasn’t really the greatest experience. Well, I told my mom and she was very frank which I really admire. She’s never been scared to talk to me and my sister about taboo issues. She told me I would have to go to the gyno and that she would take me and everything. Then she said something I won’t forget. It kind of showed that she wasn’t against masturbation at all and that she knew it wasn’t bad… she said now you’re going to crave sex and think about more…. My mom really helped me feel better I mean I had broken my promise with God and was evil in the sight of all my ‘Christian’ friends. She didn’t judge me like a lot of people do about sex. She reassured me that it was fine and that I was old enough to choose how I want to live and that having sexual urges and desires was normal. Okay... She didn’t out right say ‘I masturbate’ or anything but she was saying that she and other women out there go through the same thing.
I know so many girls that act like masturbation is bad, or say they don’t do it. It’s hard to believe; Kids do it and don’t even know. I was a kid and did it without knowing. It’s totally natural. Things make us laugh and cry, and things can arouse us too. Like when a guy touches our hand and there is that spark, because you really like him, our bodies have these natural reactions that we can not control.
It’s important to masturbate. Masturbation is the greatest releaser of stress and its fun…. More importantly…..how can you enjoy yourself with someone else if you don’t feel comfortable with yourself or know how your body works? I like my body and I know what feels good for me. When I’m naked I don’t feel ugly, I feel beautiful and sexy and it’s because I’ve taken the time to explore my body. When you fully appreciate your body you can be yourself and enjoy yourself.
And ultimately, I think if I didn’t do it I’d be all up tight and a bitch!